Gender Archives - Page 2 of 3

May 7, 2025May 24, 2025

A Hypocrite?

Am I being a hypocrite for not being more openly out? I’m thinking so. That maybe me being more openly queer is important enough that I should do so. Why? Because maybe some of the people that I have known through business or casual relationships would maybe, just maybe, that trans people can be as normal as anyone else. Except our gender of preference.

We desire more for acceptance and being accepted in society’s mainstream of people. Being queer doesn’t make us bad people. Is it offensive to some? Sure, but that’s not the folks I worry or care about.

May 3, 2025May 4, 2025

What if

My biggest issue, my burning question, my one true “what if” in my life is getting closer to being answered. .

So when you have this question hanging over your head that is impossible to answer, what do you do? I haven’t been able to stop asking the question in my head for as long as I can remember. What if? But if there is no possible way to find out then what? Do you trust blind faith? Gut feel? Research and more research?

No, it’s not as big as the eternal question “why do I exist?” because I know that answer. If you want the truth behind existence I’d be happy to share it with you.

My question is a bit simpler…

April 9, 2025May 22, 2025

A FLUID SEXUAL IDENTITY

This is a very difficult subject for me to write about. But it’s an important part of the transition journey.

As I’ve written elsewhere on my stance on Sex vs. Sexual Identity vs. Gender. I believe there are only 3 types of Sexual Orientation (SO); homesexual, heterosexual or bi-sexual. Period. Anything outside of that can be considered fetishism. But let’s use the nicer terms of gay, bi and straight, shall we?

My opinion, while respecting that everyone may not see it as I do.

March 31, 2025May 22, 2025

THE SURGERY

September 1st 2023 was the date of the big event.

The culmination of a long wait and journey, or just the beginning?

I really need to capture just the events of that specific day, while it’s still very fresh in my mind.

After 2 failed attempts to transition from male to female I started the new journey. On January 1 of 2020 I first began using hormones to start the change process. A separate blog will come on the use of HRT (hormone replacement therapy) and everything required to get to this point.

March 21, 2025May 22, 2025

Sexual Reassignment Surgery a/ka Gender Affirming Surgery

SRS. That’s the way it was initially described and written. Sexual (male/female) Reassignment (changing sexes) Surgery….hmmm.

That’s the way it should remain in my opinion. Remember my first premise, that society has blurred the true transexual person by believing in the term “gender”. You don’t need surgery to change gender or change masculinity or femininity. Just go to a great hairstylist (or wig maker), esthetician, and find a dressmaker who knows their stuff and whamo…change of gender!

January 24, 2025May 3, 2025

Gender vs Sex

Only two sexes. A Presidential Executive Order.

In some ways I agree with that, scientifically speaking, just taking the physical aspect as the criteria.

We are all born with a set chromosomal genetic base of YY or XY. That genetic code is in every cell of our body, and at this date impossible to change or dictate.

So in some sense the fool is correct…but. You know there’s always a but.

January 20, 2025May 3, 2025

Rambling

What’s on my mind? Self doubt, concerns, and the next few stages of my life.

I’m heading to see a new hematologist this morning, looking for a second opinion. Perhaps find one who cares, like the other specialists I have now.

Trial and error. The governing medical body hates it if you switch family doctors, not so for specialists. I’ve been through several to find the best fit for me.

January 18, 2025May 2, 2025

Gender revolution

I‘m starting a new movement, complete with buttons and t-shirts, one-size fits all ball caps, and little cocktail flags, A code of conduct, a secret hand-shake and annual conventions.

Okay, no convention. But I’d really like the handshake.

The Anti-Gender Establishment. AGE for short.

“Wait a sec, aren’t you the trans person searching for enlightenment?” your tempted to ask I can tell. But I’ll keep preaching on this until the cows come home (Kansas is big on cows).

January 9, 2025May 21, 2025

Some Days are Overwhelming, Some are Wondrous

Unless I need to be downtown, most of my days start off slow, gain a little momentum, then fizzle out by 4:00pm. By slow, if I’m out of the shower by 9:30 I’m doing good.

The first dose of hydromorphone starts the day, hormones and a pill to keep all the other pills from destroying my stomach. The hydromorphone numbs the pain enough to get a hot shower, walk and feed the dogs, maybe remember to eat, then run errands.

Unless I’m nauseated from kidney stones that is, then the day is a write off. The stones are just starting. It just builds up for months as they get bigger I guess.

December 1, 2024May 2, 2025

Gender: a meaningless word.

Why?

Simply look up the definition in the OED, that’s the Oxford English Dictionary. And even there it’s wrong…

“The male sex or the female sex, especially when considered with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones, or one of a range of other identities that do not correspond to established ideas of male and female.”

Simply put:

Sex (male or female) X social norms.