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June 19, 2025June 19, 2025

The Word Queer.

Some people just cringe when I say that word. “Queer”.

When I was growing up in the late 60’s and 70” it had a whole different connotation than it does now. Queer was often followed by “fag” or “faggot”. Then it was the fight or flight instinct that took over. I wasn’t much for fighting. I have several times in my life, just wasn’t much for it.

I’m surprised how the word has morphed over the decades, to where it stands for what its original intended use was. Queer simply means different. Odd, different… queer.

May 28, 2025July 23, 2025

HRT & ME: Cyproterone Acetate

Hormone Replacement Therapy and medications

As mentioned in an earlier post, my second attempt at transitioning to a point of contentment started in 2018. That was strictly getting myself in better shape, healthier. And happier. If that’s even possible. In the summer of 2018 I quit smoking for the umpteenth time, and lost 40 pounds. I had already quit drinking before my first attempt at transitioning in 2008, so this time it was a lot easier. Kinda.

I finally found a family doctor in 2019 who knew a ton about being trans, transitioning and hormone replacement therapy. He already had 11 trans patients, all at various levels and degrees of transitioning and some at varying stages of surgery. Not just young people, he dealt with a wide range of ages looking for a “cure”.

May 17, 2025May 24, 2025

The “Message”

If I only have one message in this journal, besides that of perseverance, it would simply be “Transition or die”. I put that in quotes because it’s not my original words of wisdom to claim authorship. I was first told those words of wisdom by Cassandra, in an America Online chat room called “Transexual Menace”.

I believe it was 1991 when I would sit up late at night and spend hours and hours going from one chat after another. All of America did the same at different times of the day, but in the middle of the night creatures like myself took to the chats, searching for others of a like mind. AOL was the easiest way to access this new phenomena called the Internet, just in its infancy for home use.

May 7, 2025May 24, 2025

A Hypocrite?

Am I being a hypocrite for not being more openly out? I’m thinking so. That maybe me being more openly queer is important enough that I should do so. Why? Because maybe some of the people that I have known through business or casual relationships would maybe, just maybe, that trans people can be as normal as anyone else. Except our gender of preference.

We desire more for acceptance and being accepted in society’s mainstream of people. Being queer doesn’t make us bad people. Is it offensive to some? Sure, but that’s not the folks I worry or care about.

May 3, 2025May 4, 2025

What if

My biggest issue, my burning question, my one true “what if” in my life is getting closer to being answered. .

So when you have this question hanging over your head that is impossible to answer, what do you do? I haven’t been able to stop asking the question in my head for as long as I can remember. What if? But if there is no possible way to find out then what? Do you trust blind faith? Gut feel? Research and more research?

No, it’s not as big as the eternal question “why do I exist?” because I know that answer. If you want the truth behind existence I’d be happy to share it with you.

My question is a bit simpler…

April 9, 2025May 22, 2025

A FLUID SEXUAL IDENTITY

This is a very difficult subject for me to write about. But it’s an important part of the transition journey.

As I’ve written elsewhere on my stance on Sex vs. Sexual Identity vs. Gender. I believe there are only 3 types of Sexual Orientation (SO); homesexual, heterosexual or bi-sexual. Period. Anything outside of that can be considered fetishism. But let’s use the nicer terms of gay, bi and straight, shall we?

My opinion, while respecting that everyone may not see it as I do.

March 31, 2025May 22, 2025

THE SURGERY

September 1st 2023 was the date of the big event.

The culmination of a long wait and journey, or just the beginning?

I really need to capture just the events of that specific day, while it’s still very fresh in my mind.

After 2 failed attempts to transition from male to female I started the new journey. On January 1 of 2020 I first began using hormones to start the change process. A separate blog will come on the use of HRT (hormone replacement therapy) and everything required to get to this point.

March 21, 2025May 22, 2025

Sexual Reassignment Surgery a/ka Gender Affirming Surgery

SRS. That’s the way it was initially described and written. Sexual (male/female) Reassignment (changing sexes) Surgery….hmmm.

That’s the way it should remain in my opinion. Remember my first premise, that society has blurred the true transexual person by believing in the term “gender”. You don’t need surgery to change gender or change masculinity or femininity. Just go to a great hairstylist (or wig maker), esthetician, and find a dressmaker who knows their stuff and whamo…change of gender!

January 24, 2025May 3, 2025

Gender vs Sex

Only two sexes. A Presidential Executive Order.

In some ways I agree with that, scientifically speaking, just taking the physical aspect as the criteria.

We are all born with a set chromosomal genetic base of YY or XY. That genetic code is in every cell of our body, and at this date impossible to change or dictate.

So in some sense the fool is correct…but. You know there’s always a but.

January 20, 2025May 3, 2025

Rambling

What’s on my mind? Self doubt, concerns, and the next few stages of my life.

I’m heading to see a new hematologist this morning, looking for a second opinion. Perhaps find one who cares, like the other specialists I have now.

Trial and error. The governing medical body hates it if you switch family doctors, not so for specialists. I’ve been through several to find the best fit for me.